Review and update the agreement every 3-6 months

A static agreement becomes outdated and ignored. Schedule regular reviews where the whole family discusses what is working, what is not, and what should change. As children mature, increase their autonomy and input proportionally.

Why It Works

Children's needs, technology, and family circumstances change rapidly. Regular reviews keep the agreement relevant and give children the experience of renegotiation — a valuable life skill. It also signals respect for their growing maturity.

Tips

• Time reviews to coincide with natural transitions: start of school year, summer break, birthdays
• Ask children what they would change before stating your own views
• Celebrate growth: acknowledge areas where they have demonstrated responsibility
• Keep previous versions so the family can see how the agreement has evolved